Thread:FunAndGamess/@comment-39024013-20190629102305/@comment-35137341-20190703105556

Victory the NightWing wrote: -deep breath-

aLRIGHT KIDDOS THE SUPPORT QUEEN IS HERE WITH METHODS FOR FEELING BETTER IN TOW

but to be honest, is it possible to hate someone you're friendly with?

Apparently, after all my times practically spraying people with bottles of water and hissing at them for dating from ages kindergarten and up, people have seemed to decide that last year was the PERFECT time to go overboard with it.

Look, I get that we're old enough to do that kind of stuff now without me throwing a hissy fit, but I wasn't yelling at them for having crushes and things. I was yelling at them for starting drama about it and trying to drag my friends and I into this sort of thing, along with starting love triangles and having the smuggest look on their faces when I couldn't stop them.

I could write a whole book about the incidents at my school, including but most certainly not limited to:


 * The time when they started a rumor that one of my best friends, known to the wiki as Book, was lesbian. Now, I'm a supporter of lesbians and all other members of the LGBT community, but this is the South, so of course people are going to tease her about it. I admire how she handled this--I'm proud of her, because she has anxiety and low self-esteem, and she answered their fired questions with a calm face and shot down the annoying kid who started the rumors as fast as possible.


 * The times when people would try to start rumors about me, and I'd shut it doooown. Explanation if needed.


 * The time when people started to spread rumors about my innocent mom friend, Bird, and I shut that down right now. The situation was actually kind of hilarious because of how badly the rumor-starters executed it, but... (I can explain this as well.)

But now Book has aquired a crush of her own. She doesn't want to act upon it, and stupid cRUUUUSH likes her back, but I...I kinda feel like he's slowly peeling her away from me. I'm pun-friends with this dude, but now I dislike him because of the Book issue?

I know that it's wrong, but I'm really hoping the mutual liking dissolves over the summer. I just want things to be the way they were before.

I think I need help. a similar thing happened to me just recently. Except I was in the same place Book was in, with a requited crush. Let's call said crush Mochi (because Jimin)

Now, all the way back in early December, Mochi confessed to his friends (on Discord) that he had a crush on me. Two of these friends (who happen to be my best friends) told me and showed me a screenshot of his confession message, and it was kept quiet for a couple weeks, just between us.

I had been fostering my own crush upon Mochi for the last few months as well, and obviously, I was happy. So I confronted Mochi about it, and so we kept it under wraps for the next few weeks. Until people started shipping us in class. Mochi and I both got very defensive of each other, very fast. That was a mistake, and it only encouraged them. So then, everyone basically found out because one my best friends told them to leave us alone.

Now, Mochi started moving closer and closer into my friend circle, to the point where he sits at our table at lunch, etc. I started hanging out with him and his social circle more, too. And my other best friend didn't like it. At all. She felt like she was losing me to him. So she told me.

Now, I'm pretty much the person with the most gravity in this situation. So I decided to reassure my best friend and remind her that no one can come between us.

Here's the advice I'd give to you as the best friend. If you really want to keep Book..maybe confront her about it? Just talking it out is the best, because maybe Book isn't realizing she's doing that, because I didn't. If she's a genuine friend, she'll understand that you need some time with her too, so remind her of your friendship as well.

Things can return to the way they were before, but only if she realizes what she's doing/not doing.

Hope this resolves!

-ember