Thread:FunAndGamess/@comment-39024013-20190721091223/@comment-39024013-20190908001654

Your Mum clearly doesn't understand how hard the situation is. I have problems with my Mum, serious ones I would rather not express on the internet. But at some point, I was so annoyed at her, I sent a lengthy email, because what she doesn't realize is that this is a serious thing, and adults usually dismiss a child's feelings as a 'teenage phase' or some nonesense. So by sending your Mum an email, you are proving to her that the situation won't go away and that you actually CARE. She doesn't expect you to feel anything from her actions, and if they will you will forget them, but by doing this you are standing up for yourself Parents tend to take their kids more seriously when on the internet apparently. It looked a bit like this:

''Hey Mum, before you read, I would first like to say I want a discussion, not an argument. I am emailing you this rather then talking to you in person for obvious reasons. Now, I know this is going to make you mad, but lately you have been [Things my Mum has done and said to me lately] and I know you are going to tell me to drop it, and to stop holding grudges. But a grudge isn't a thing that happened a few days ago, a grudge is holding on to something in resentment that doesn't matter anymore, and this still matters. ''

''When you were a kid, did YOUR parents [Things my Mum has done and said to me lately] ? If so, how did that make you feel? Sad? Angry? Like people don't really care about you?''

''This is the impact you have on me. When you say things that are rude and harmful, you never show any signs that you care. What if I was your age, what if I wasn't a teenager? Would you still be so harsh to me? No. You are never like this to your friends, because they are adults and apparently being an adult gives you the right to be a jerk to your children. Why can't it be like that for me? Why can't you treat me like other human beings, what makes me so different?''

''You may think it's ok, and I will get over it later, but that's not how it works. I get it, you are an adult. An authority figure, but you are also my Mother. And being a Mother you are supposed to care about me, yet you show know signs of that. For once in your life, may you please treat me not as a child, but as a fellow adult? All I want is the sort of love and care you give for other people, but apparently I don't deserve that because I am younger than you.''

''The thing is, whenever I point out you doing something wrong, you yell at me. But what if I was a friend of yours, and we were talking at a cafe. You said something slightly rude to me, and I point that out and express that I have been hurt by your words. You would immidiatly apologise and remember not to say that again. So why can't it be like that for me?''

''At least consider what I have said, and think about your actions. I love you, and if you truley love me back, then show some signs.''